is a man on the verge of tears as I receive that day ...
He can no longer speak, so the emotion is great ... But
Accustomed to public discourse and it has usually no difficulty speaking
But there, that day, at this moment This is not of him that this is his son
Aged 17 her child is difficulties in school long ago. For years he did everything he could, everything he can to keep the school system.
"keep her head above water"
But right now, he no longer knows what to do, how. He can not go ...
is exceeded, helpless, hopeless, no longer knows how to help.
He alone is lonely ..
Slowly he explains the course of his son, a child without any particular problem, but that does not follow the school since kindergarten. It does not always, makes mistakes, has increased two classes, without really conclusive results.
Private lessons, help with homework ... Without really convincing results
meetings with teaching staff ... Without any real results.
Besides school, high school teachers, are a difficult, painful, sensitive. For the young man but also for his parents.
Teachers did not understand that a child from a "medium like his" have such poor results ... They were quickly disappointed as the productions were not written at the height of its expression orally.
Why or why not learning it not, did not write it properly,
Why? Why?
Unanswered.
Then came the intimate and intrusive questions ... "What's wrong at home? You'll get divorced ...?" "There is certainly a problem? "The explanations
" psychological "metaphysical denial of the school, separation anxiety
Parents kept good ... but have suffered from what they experienced as an intrusion, an accusation.
This "you" designating them as guilty voltage potentials, responsible for the difficulties their child
That you, making them "bad parents"
You .... What do you do for your son's results are as poor or bad?
YOU may have too many demands, YOU ask him perhaps too much?
you monitor homework? YOU do not have time to deal with it ...." This
you ... "You're guilty of" Who yet has done what he could, as he could. But who says he's bound to miss something
This "you"? This
you condemning them.
For years they found that the youngster did not always understand the instructions, even simple things, he could not copy the course without forgetting the words, or answer questions properly, even if he had learned his lesson!
Your son is certainly stupid? "You're sure it's normal?
naming them as 'other': Object object
difficulties, the source of problem for the teacher, teaching ...
A student who nevertheless tried to hang on ... Thanks all the same trust, the love of his parents for their support
is probably all that has kept its head above water, which has not been cast, fully
One might asked how he could continue to go to school without having developed a school phobia, despite the jitters in the stomach, because it has often been the target of ridicule from other students when they are not teachers ...
"You do not understand!"
The father is on the verge of tears because he is powerless, helpless to defend and protect her child.
Her distress was terrible, it takes the full force and does not know what to do!
Yet!
end of this year seems hopeless ... The property has had enough. He was only 9, 2 medium, after a repetition. He collapsed in the third quarter, a victim of harassment, and discouraged because their efforts seem not to have paid at least enough.
Yet if you look carefully and compare the various newsletters, progress is there, very palpable.
Not enough, certainly, but there.
We must fight! Do not get discouraged, continue, do not plant this kid like that should be encouraged ...
begins a sort of obstacle course ...
balance with the schoolboy, who is far from stupid, aware of these problems ... But who wants to get there!
A demonstration of dysgraphia (detected by parents who have unsuccessfully tried to explain it to the school) and a rapidly objectified dyspraxia. Explaining the difficulties and fatigue suffered by the schoolboy and complains ...
remains the principal, convinced that he has a place in school ... He could continue his studies as he wishes to realize his project.
must then establish an administrative record, make an appointment with the professionals ...
believe, fight, do not give up! Write, call, going to appointments.
His father and mother are there .. They will accompany, assist, support the
Getting help and support too, because the course is complex and complicated. But it's worth it!
In September following their son was able to integrate the class he wished to receive aid and development that his disability makes him (yes, it is indeed a disability, it must be stressed).
year has not been easy, it took hard work, extra time, support, recognition of its difficulties, it has yielded satisfactory results. He was admitted to the next grade ...
Demonstrating that he was not '"stupid" but that his cognitive functioning was different. Encouraged by its results, by teachers who had "played the game," he earned his baccalaureate honorably and was able to integrate the BTS one he wanted!
This is not a "nice story" with a happy ending. They do not finish all this, unfortunately. But just a painful history, experienced by a child and his family. A message of hope too. I thank them for agreeing to be told it anonymously here, to demonstrate that nothing is ever lost.
Thanks also to Clementine Severin social worker, writer and above all friend who always answers this when I need advice and information regarding administrative guide these children and parents
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